Right before driving out to the Oregon coast, Rachel and I began this trip at the wedding of our dear friends, Chris and Colette. It was a perfect wedding in a beautiful place a few hours north of San Francisco. For the ceremony, Chris and Colette asked some friends to write blessings on various topics; Chris asked me to write one on travel and adventure.
In the 90 days since Chris’ wedding, Rachel and I haven’t been more than 25 feet from one another. It has been 90 days of accelerated change, for me, for her. It’s been a time of intensified emotions and of navigating through roles we have taken for one another, altering them, abandoning them, trying new ones on, and altering, abandoning, and trying on again. For my part, these have been 90 of the happiest days of my life.
I re-read the blessing I gave for Chris and Colette today. It is a blessing so relevant to these recent days of my life with Rachel. I’ve posted the transcript below as a blessing for the many adventures ahead:
People often speak of travel and adventure as if it is the same as vacation, as if it takes place in exotic locations and foreign lands, as if it is separate from our daily lives. But there is no division between travel, adventure, and life. Travel is movement and adventure is the unknown. And moving into the unknown is a choice; a tug of war between fear and hope: fear of what you may encounter and hope of what you may discover.
When a relationship is young, travel and adventure are effortless. We travel far because we are surrounded by newness, we experience adventure because so much is unknown. And there are those that say that as a relationship ages, travel and adventure diminish. But this is a trick and a test. Our eyes see the same shape in front of us and they say to our mind, “This is my husband. This is my wife.” But look closer. The person you woke up next to today is not the same person as the day before. They have grown, and you have grown. To continue your adventure together, free them every day to be the new person they have become. Free them because today you have promised to always choose hope over fear and to love the person you wake up next to tomorrow, even if they are not the person you marry today.
Chris and Colette, in the tug of war that inspires travel and adventure, your hope has always pulled harder than fear. May you continue to make this choice, may you continue to travel the world, and may you continue to see the adventure in each other.
This blessing sums up this trip for me. It has been a jewel of many facets, but the undivided time with Rachel was the one that sparkled brightest. She has loved me perfectly as I’ve navigated through this condensed period of change, and I have loved all that I’ve discovered about her and love the person she has become through it.
In the days ahead, we will be back in familiar environments and it will make the changes we have been through all the more evident. I’m curious to see what feels new in the weeks ahead. I wonder if we will react to old situations in new ways. I wonder if we will relate to each other in new ways. This chapter on biking across the country ended when we stepped into the Atlantic; I’m excited to answer these questions in the next chapter of our adventure together.





































